Success in whichever form is always welcome and for those who have made it, they will confess of serious challenges they had to overcome to become what they are.
While most people see the success, very few see the processes that moulded the prosperity of the person they admire.
But we live in a world where those who are good and fast decision makers end up with the longer end of the stick. And the best of the land, usually.
Ditch Your Poor Friends
To make success a way of life, you need to ditch the people close to you who do not help you achieve your dreams.
These are the poor friends who will always pull you back keeping you from your goals longer.
And, money is not everything. The issue here is about those who have poverty of ideas.
There are friends who will be around you because of what they are getting from you and not what they give in return. Just like in business, friendships are transactions. They are about giving and taking.
When you have friends who are draining you emotionally, they are bad even for your bank accounts.
If you have friends who cannot keep confidences, these should be shown the door.
For those seeking success, and this is all of us, the people we surround ourselves with will determine how fast, slow or if we ever make it.
The friends you need to do away with include:
- Toxic people
These kinds of people could be the reason you never make it past the door of success. You can see it, you know it but somehow it keeps eluding you. It could be that the toxicity within your friendship circle could be working against you.
When you have people who are always hateful, negative about life and basically have nothing but the angel of death looming over everything, then it could be they also could be the hindrance to your success.
These are the kinds you share with about starting a business and they have all the reasons why it cannot work yet they do not give you substantive reasons why. They also do not give you options or other ideas except what cannot work.
They are however not to be confused with our next kind.
- Poor situation analysts
Someone may have started a business and it failed and so they feel that anyone who wants to start the same business may not work.
Without sufficient proof, they will try to show you how the idea is bad and how it cannot work for you. Yet, the situations could be different. They always are, anyways.
So basing everything on their failures, they will fail to recognise that your situation could be different from theirs. If you consistently have to deal with this kind of friend, it could be time you ditched them.
- The Forever Child
The truth is, poor friends will make you poor in 2020 and every other new year that you celebrate and remain hopeful.
Did you know that we all have a child inside of us that wants to just go out and play? Well, the reality of the matter is that we cannot be children forever but there are some people who will always be because of how they reason and how they deal with situations.
If you have friends who are explosive, unaccountable and uncouth, then the best thing is to get rid of them if you have to be successful.
- The Shadow
This is the kind of friend that you are always making plans with even subconsciously.
It means that before you even a move- business or otherwise- you have to consult them. Basically, they know everything about you but you probably barely know anything about them.
While it is advisable to have a confidante, those that impede your ability to make independent decisions and moves mean they need to go. Be freer with yourself, trust yourself a bit more and push your limits a bit further.
See what magic you can achieve without always having to have your shadow think on your behalf.
But do not be too perfect as to think that you do not need people around you to give you honest feedback.
- The Always Yes Friend
There are times that you make decisions and feel that despite consulting, your friends deliberately failed you. You ask yourself questions like: how could they not show me the loophole? Or how could they have missed that?
Well, maybe your friends could have been the always ‘yes’ type and they could not say something that would have made you uncomfortable, angry etc.
If you have been through this, it is time to make your circle even smaller. Have a circle of friends you can trust, with common goals of success and people who cannot tolerate mediocrity.
It is 2020 and so ditch those with poverty of ideas and thrive!
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